With all that’s going on in the world and my life today, I felt compelled to share some strategies that could help in dealing with trauma.
Emotional trauma is a part of life. Whether you discuss it openly or keep it secret, all of us—even those who seem to have it all—have faced emotional distress or difficulty at some point in life. Some find a way to process it, let it go and adopt a positive attitude. Others find it harder to move on and dwell on their setbacks. They confuse the pain as part of their identity and do not recognize that it’s a mental thing. The emotional setbacks you experience in life are often not in your control, but the way you react to them is. You can decide whether a difficult time makes you stronger or weaker.
The victim mentality is a learned personality characteristic in which a person feels weak and unable to deal with or take action in difficult situations. I have definitely been in this space during moments in my life. People with victim mentalities perceive themselves as suffering from the actions of others and continue to feel this way even after the negative situation or actions are no longer present or relevant. However, this is a learned trait and learned traits can be changed.
It is okay to mourn and be sad. AND it is also okay to utilize strategies to keep from getting stuck in the past.
- Convince your mind that you are the owner of all your decisions. Boost your emotional immune system by setting goals to do great things and achieve success instead of adopting isolation, distress, and mental instability.
- Develop a positive mindset by creating a positive personality. When the inner self becomes more positive, the external environment is automatically perceived as positive. A positive environment then makes you content and a content mind can push you towards productivity. Productivity results in success, and success on any level makes your happier. Mentality is a cycle; pursue a positive one, one step at a time. Expressing gratitude and repeating affirmations can help significantly with this.
- Meditating is an effective way to minimize stress, anxiety, and self-pity, among many other negative emotions. Regular meditation gives your mind time to relax. It does not require any special place or equipment. You can do it anywhere.
- Let go of your ego and be brave enough to be vulnerable, especially to the loved ones around you. No need for power struggles. No need to be a hard nut to crack. Blaming others is easy; accepting your mistakes and taking steps to correct them is a bold move. Encourage yourself to take such bold steps. Harboring grudges in your heart will only result in stagnancy and an increasingly shrinking amount of positive and constructive energy around you.
- Surround yourself with loving supportive people as much as possible. Positive loving energy attracts positive loving energy. As does negative spiteful energy. Be careful of the types of people you surround yourself with. Whether you like it or not, their energy (good or bad) will impact you.
When have you felt the victim of a circumstance? Have you tried to get rid of it, or are you still holding it close to you? Share your experiences and open up to others. You will soon see you are not the only one.
Let’s move past it together.
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